i am brilliant!

i am!
i am absolutely brilliant! - when my pregnant brain wants to allow it.
i was talking with TJ last night about the baby shower drama. he agreed that if i don't want one i shouldn't have to have one. and i should be able to request that. he agreed that it's too much hassle b/c i'd probably end up returning most of the items received b/c i am not a sheeshee girl kind of person. i want my little daughter to look like a nicely dressed little girl -not a giant pink meringue.
then we recalled the tiny detail that when MIL threw the shower for me in 2007 it was a coed shower. all the spouses and even some of TJ's single friends were invited. there was BBQ and everything.
so we came up with the following email together and sent it last night.
what do you think?

Hi Linda!
I was talking with TJ about the baby shower in march and we thought it would be a good idea if we did a party for the baby when TJ would be at home and able to attend. I wasn’t really planning on having any showers this time around since this is our second baby.
We thought it would be a better idea to make it a “welcome baby” party in the summer. Maybe in June or July. That way TJ will be able to come and everyone will get to see the new addition.

Love you.
Hope to talk to you soon.


hopefully she isn't offended that i don't want a shower.she's not really that type -or at least she's not the type to show it.
i figure a welcome party will be easier. folks won't feel obligated to buy a gift and i won't have to go thru the hassle of finding stuff to register for since we already did the crib and bedding ourselves.that only leaves the monitor(which my mom said she'd get) and a changing pad and covers -which wouldn't cost us hardly anything.
i'll let you know if i get a response.