a happy weekend, and an egg-celent situation!

this weekend was nice.
it was good to have TJ home. he showed early. WAY early!
i was expecting to have to get thru the whole day friday before he made it in. i called him around 8 30 to see if he'd left yet. i got no answer.i just figured he had his radio blasting while he was cruising down the road and hung up.
he called back about 10 minutes later.
they started letting ppl sign out at midnight thursday.
he was 20 minutes away from home.
of course this resulted in my scarfing my breakfast and running around like crazy trying to wash my face and get dressed and do the bit of kitchen tidying i had left undone last night.
he had been driving all night - which made me nervous to hear. considering he had been up since 4 30 that morning, AND had never really gone to bed that night. he got like a 45 minutes snooze in, but kept getting woke up by ppl calling and asking him to go to the bar. the last call he got was a friend saying they were releasing ppl for the long weekend.
it was nice to be able to spend all of that day together rather than just the evening. though he did take a nap almost as soon as he got in. and he did go out and buy another pistol that afteroon while tj was napping.
and he managed to come thru on v day! i seriously expected him to forget. which didn't really matter b/c he was going to be HERE and that was enough! just to be able to see him.
i picked him up a nice card and a giant Hershey kiss b/c that's what i do every year.and then saturday morning he surprised me with a big box of chocolates and the bestest card i think he's ever picked out.
at the bottom of the card he wrote "thanks for riding on this journey with me even though sometimes it's bumpy." i wanted to cry. i kissed him and said "it's been a good journey, and i don't mind the bumps. they give us character." and it's true. considering all the bumps ahead - like a 12 month deployment leaving me outnumbered by a 4 month old and an almost 2 year old (God help me!!!)yes i know, ppl do it everyday. and most of them don't know how they are going to manage until they just have to. so no worries!-he sure does manage to make up for all the time he spends away and the stupid inconsiderate idiot things he can do.
ok enough sappy stuff.

here's about the egg incident:
strike 1 was the rock someone threw at the garage door back in july.
strike 2 -the christmas lights that someone smashed in.(poor frosty!)

and now strike 3:

TJ was working on some homework yesterday so i took little tj out to swing. which he didn't seem to be having a good time with, so we went out front where i proceeded to strap him and his stuffed winnie the pooh in the red wagon. we headed up the driveway for a little stroll when i see it.
a big goopy clear blob of "stuff" by my car.
about 5 feet away from said blob i see an egg shell. a smashed flat but not in a gazillion pieces egg shell.
just one. so no one egged our cars.
i shrugged it off.
we stroll down to the neighbors driveway and back up to ours and i notice more goopy clear blob streaked down my tire. but i see no yolk on car or driveway or anywhere. and i really couldn't find any kind of splat place on the paint where said egg may have hit and bounced off somehow....... we stroll up to the other neighbors drive and back again and i decide to ask TJ what he thinks.
we roll in to the garage and i poke my head in the door.
"babe can you hear me?" i holler.
"yeah!"
" so i know if you stick bologna slices on someones car it'll eat the paint but what about egg?"
i hear rustles of paper.
"egg will do the same thing."
"oh........ i think someone may have egged my car but i'm not sure. there's no yellow!"
there's a clatter and scrapping of him pushing his chair back in the kitchen. he appears around the corner.
"well lets just take a look."
we go out and i give him the run down of my discovery. he checked out both cars. all paint was clear of egg splatter best we could tell.
then he pulls out his brilliant thinking cap.
the blob on the driveway - all egg white
egg white streaked on my tire directly in line with said blob.
then he sees drips of dried egg white above the wheel well, under my gas tank door......
dun dun dun!
he throws open the gas tank door and rips the cap off and.....
"and there it is!!!.....(long string of profanity) .....the sorry mother fuckers! i'm calling the cops!!" (i rarely witness any kind of outburst like this from my husband. it's almost unheard of!)
the egg yolk was sitting in my gas tank.
thankfully there is a flap covering the mouth of the tank once the lid is off so we were able to scoop out most of the egg.whoever did it was in a hurry b/c no one stuck anything down the flap to get the egg all the way inside the tank.(my ex husband's buddies put sugar in my gas tank years ago when i decided to divorce his sorry behind. that was a big mess. totally ruined my car! we had to have the whole engine rebuilt. i was afraid of the damage an egg might cause. what if it cooked and clogged something??)
an officer came and took a report. (i checked the neighbors cars and driveways while cop and TJ were talking. they didn't touch his truck. just my car.)he said we were among a list of several calls that day already for the same problem. and that there had also been a call from some kid reporting suspicious persons tampering with other ppls cars. gave a description and an address of where he thought suspicious person lived.
my car should be fine.our neighbor who is a mechanic said he couldn't' see any problems, as did the officer.so we added fresh gas and took it for a good drive. picked up locking gas caps for each vehicle. warned the neighbors..........
TJ stayed in a mood for hours.
"all's i wanted to do was come home and have a nice weekend and do some catching up with my wife and my son!"
(he had spent most of saturday afternoon running around town trying to find someone to fix his phone. he has a black berry. this is his 2nd one.he's already had one replaced with buggs in it. not his one messed up to and he was going to make sure they fixed it THIS weekend! b/c he wasn't waiting.turns out the new one they sent him to replace his old one -the one that had quite working saturday - they sent to him a refurbished one, not a brand new one like they were supposed to. like he paid for! it would have been 50$ for a used one. he paid 100$ for a new one.....anyway, that got fixed finally. and then the egg mess. he just wanted to spend some nice quiet time at home - it's just the way life happens sometimes.)
i asked him if he was so bothered by it b/c it made him afriad to go off and leave us again.
"no. not really. no one's done anything to put ya'll in danger. it's just that i have worked my ASS OFF to obtain all the nice things that we have and it pisses me off that someone comes in and screws with it!"
and that was really all that was said about it.


TJ's grampa did finally pass away around midnight last night.they took him off life support on Friday.he had been talking to his mom and brother off and on this weekend,he would always sush us or go outside to take a call. he told me he hadn't told them he was at home b/c his mom would make him feel obligated to make an appearance or guilty for not going down to the tx/la border to see everyone. so he just didn't tell her he was home.
she called my cell at 12 29 to tell me the news.i slept right thru it. then she called the house at like 1 15- where TJ accidentally answered the phone b/c he was half asleep. she didn't act surprised. maybe she was in shock and thought she called his cell.
anyway,TJ said he was sad for his mom, but that he didn't feel the need to attend the funeral or go up there and be with her (besides that he would have to take emergency leave to go down there and then would be in a bind with trying to finish school if i went in to labor early and he had to take more leave.)

crazy neighbor:
something i forgot to tell ya'll earlier on: we were talking several days ago and she wanted to know why TJ was driving home this weekend, wouldn't it be faster to fly?
no. it's cheaper and faster to drive b/c all the flights that leave OK go to GA(or somewhere) first, not straight to tx. we figured this out a while back when trying to brew up an emergency plan if he had to get home in a hurry - it would take the same time if not longer to fly.
"well, i kind of have a suspicion that he's going to miss the birth of this child anyway. so you might should be prepare yourself that he won't be there and make a back up plan for someone else to sit with you thru the delivery."
and who asked your opinion??
i am very aware he might miss it! we discussed it before we were ever pregnant! we made a decision to do it anyway!
she can be so tacky without meaning to be.


today she called right after TJ left. she must have been watching out the window to see when he was gone. i told her he was leaving today. she said she'd call and check on me.
she hasn't gotten over treating me like i'm having a nervous break down every time he goes somewhere.she's been like this every since we moved in 5 years ago.
he comes and goes so much that it's kind of 2nd nature now.aside from the slums that i've been in from time to time b/c i'm pregnant, it doens't feel strange when he leaves for long periods of time. it bothers me. but i'm kind of in a routine now and feeling more established and it's easier to find something to do around the house rather than sit and cry (which is what i did do before i had a child who took up most of my attention and time anyway)
so she called. i was on the phone with my mom and didn't switch over.
i called her later on. no answer. left message.
she calls again at 12 30 when i'm on the phone with my mom, again (i had asked her to look at jammies for tj (who won't leave his zippers alone and undoes his sleepers nearly every night!and she was calling me to tell me what they had) i didn't click over again.
she calls my cell phone.
i didn't answer that either.
she knew i was here. and if the machine doesn't pick up it's b/c -DUH! i'm on the phone!
she calls the house AGAIN!
this time i put my mom on hold and answer the line saying "are you having an emergency!?"
stutter and stammering and then "kind of. we're waiting on a play station to be delivered and my husband wants to go to lunch but the package has to be signed for and we don't want to miss it so if you were going to be home i was wanting to put a note on my door for them to deliver it to you." all in one breath! impressive. i must have scared her.
i should have just not answered and told her later i was on the phone with the insurance company or something -but it's a holiday so that wouldn't' have worked.
"that's fine. i'll be here."
"ok. thanks. so how are you doing?"
"i'm fine. but i'm on the other line so i have to go."
that is in no WAY an emergency of any kind!
they have a WII and a nintendo game cube and another play station already.
ah well. it's not like i wasn't going to be here anyway.
i guess i better wash my face in case i have to answer the door.

more stuff

this week i have managed to steam clean the carpet in my living room.
my nice new carpet had 4 pets stains on it.
i thought we were over this really, but our little dog goes thru these times where she protests her "daddy" being gone and she pottys on the floor in the middle of the night. sleeping with the bedroom door helps b/c she can't get out of our room and she won't get up -most of the time. but sometimes i have to leave the door open b/c the cats will just cry in the middle of the night to go out or come in.
i actually got all the spots up and the steamed the whole room. it all came clean.
the next morning i went out to start the coffee and was greeted with a nice fresh pile of poo sitting right in the door way to our living room -on my clean carpet. :(

i have also swept and mopped the kitchen and gone thru the 2 boxes of maternity clothes that have been sitting at the foot of my bed for a month waiting to be sorted into piles of "won't fit already" and "too big but can make do til they do fit."

vacuumed my bedroom.
today i'm going to steam clean the carpet in there.

and today the new baby bedding is coming. it's already out for delivery! YAY! i'm going to wash it and put it on! even though i'll have to take it off and wash it again probably b/c i'm sure the door will get left open and the cats will sleep in the crib or i'll just decide it's dusty and needs to be washed again before i can put the new baby. but that can actually wait for a while b/c we'll be using a bassinet for the first months or two in our room.

i guess i'll also be going to target soon to look at the throw pillows and a new dust ruffel.
but that may wait too. i might decide to go see my mom this weekend. it's supposed to be cold this weekend again and i just can never seem to get warm at home when TJ is gone.
it's weird. i know. he's just one of those things that makes me feel cozy. guess that means i'm cold alot.

oh, and David Cook. the new american idol guy from i guess last season or whenever -yeah i don't watch that show either. his single "Light on" i love it! i bought it off itunes this morning. it reminds me of my life a little. i leave a light on all the time when TJ is gone. it's just one of those things......

the bachelor

anyone watch this monday?

i don't usually watch these kinds of shows. they just kind of annoy me. but i was interested to see how this one goes over b/c of jason being a single dad and all that.

i sat thru the whole 2 hrs. but i wanted to jab my finger down my throat pretty much the whole time.
it was actually a rather lonley experienc b/c i laughed so hard at some of the most stupid stuff that happened but there was no one to make fun of the show with. i only know one person that watches those and i called her but she wasn't watching. i think she's more of a bachellorett fan actually. and way-all these women competeing for this one guys attention and the crazy off the wall things they said - like the dental hygenist chick that told jason he had beautiful teeth! she did! it just kind of fell out of her mouth at the end of the nice long list of all the details she had dug up about him and his family and how GREAT she thought he was! and then at the end she says "jason you have beautiful teeth!" i wanted to die! it i was so funny!

i don't know that i'll keep up with the show or not. i didn't really like any of the candidates he picked to stay on to possibly be his wife.

this year.

if i was going to have a new years resuloution (i rarely make them. and if i do well, i don't usually remember to stick to them) it would be to complain less.

i gripe a lot.
most of the time it's just for the sake of griping.

i also wish that i were more consistent in my house keeping.
when i worked 40 hrs a week i swept and mopped and vacuumed every saturday and cleaned the bathrooms on whatever half day i had off that week. why can't i do that now? when i'm home all the time?

but i'm definately going to complain less. even if i have to sneak it in in ways that don't sound like complaining.

i am brilliant!

i am!
i am absolutely brilliant! - when my pregnant brain wants to allow it.
i was talking with TJ last night about the baby shower drama. he agreed that if i don't want one i shouldn't have to have one. and i should be able to request that. he agreed that it's too much hassle b/c i'd probably end up returning most of the items received b/c i am not a sheeshee girl kind of person. i want my little daughter to look like a nicely dressed little girl -not a giant pink meringue.
then we recalled the tiny detail that when MIL threw the shower for me in 2007 it was a coed shower. all the spouses and even some of TJ's single friends were invited. there was BBQ and everything.
so we came up with the following email together and sent it last night.
what do you think?

Hi Linda!
I was talking with TJ about the baby shower in march and we thought it would be a good idea if we did a party for the baby when TJ would be at home and able to attend. I wasn’t really planning on having any showers this time around since this is our second baby.
We thought it would be a better idea to make it a “welcome baby” party in the summer. Maybe in June or July. That way TJ will be able to come and everyone will get to see the new addition.

Love you.
Hope to talk to you soon.


hopefully she isn't offended that i don't want a shower.she's not really that type -or at least she's not the type to show it.
i figure a welcome party will be easier. folks won't feel obligated to buy a gift and i won't have to go thru the hassle of finding stuff to register for since we already did the crib and bedding ourselves.that only leaves the monitor(which my mom said she'd get) and a changing pad and covers -which wouldn't cost us hardly anything.
i'll let you know if i get a response.

sneaky sister in law

i came home from target yesterday and the first thing i hear is the answering machine beeping with a new message.
first things first: it was nap time so i got teege all settled in his bed.
then i brought in my grocery bags.
i finally check the machine to hear my sister in law hollering my name over the speaker to see if i was home and then say "we're driving thru your side of town on our way home and wanted to see if you wanted to meet somewhere and eat. call me back!"

i give them a good 30 minutes before calling back, hoping they had gone on their merry way thru town.
when i do call back i find that they aren't even to austin yet and she wanted to know if wanted to meet "them" for dinner.(not surea t this point who "them" is) i told her that so long that as i wasn't later than 6 -b/c that's only as far as teege can make it without eating -i'd meet them and she should call me when they got to town.
"well were stopping to see "his" cousin(i'm assuming she means her boyfriend's cousin) and we should be in town around 4. i'll call you after while"
4pm comes and goes.
i had made an attempt to fix myself up for going out b/c i hadn't washed my hair or face all day and kind of looked like hell. so i made myself presentable. which at least made me feel better.
at 5 15 i call my sister in law back. only to get voice mail. leave her a message that i have to go ahead and feed teege b/c he's starving and to call me and let me know where to meet them.
at 6 i finally call my mother in law (they were all at a wedding this weekend but apparently weren't riding in the same car) she had already blown thru austin and hit san antonio to pick up her dogs and was almost home. i chatted with her(which is how i found about the baby shower) and then told her that the others had invited me to dinner but i couldn't' get hold of anyone and i guessed that since it was getting so late i'd just bathe teege and put him to bed. she said "that's what i would do."

sister in law finally called me at 7 49 and apologized. said she got sick at her bf's cousins house and laid down and feel asleep.
i think they all went to dinner with his family instead.
i don't care that they ditched me i just wish she would have called a little earlier and canceled. instead of flaking on me. ah but she is only 18 - or is it 19?-
i always have to remember this.

i have no guts

i don't want to have any baby showers.

i know this one is a girl. but standarad protocall -atleast in my family -was only one baby shower given for the very first baby had by each aunt,cousin,sister,etc. after that that was it. it didn't matter if the next kid was a different sex or not. one baby shower was it.

TJ's family -oh they want to throw a baby shower for everyone they know who is having a baby no matter how many kids they already have.

my neighbor is giving me all of her little girl stuff. her youngest daughter is 5 months old -that's plenty of space between our kids to allow for passing down items.
all of the baby showers i had when i was pregnant with Teege i got the same stuff over and over and over again: blankets and 0-3 month onesies. a few scattered outfits here and there for as he got older.and the the folks that were really smart bought me things like bath stuff and towels and diapers and a high chair and little sick baby care kits,etc. usefull things like diaper rash cream and vaseline and safety ear swabs(those are VERY HANDY BY THE WAY!)but mostly blankets, and onesies. and to be honest, i kind of hate onesies, atleast after they hit a certain age. after they're like 6 months old it's easier to pull a shirt on for me. do you know how much stuff i took back? i had over 400$ in store credit that i stashed away for diapers. i guess i could do that again.
and it would only be 1 shower. and there are a select few things i need. maybe i'll ask them just to give us money. that settles the hassle of returning stuff i don't like or won't use.and i can go get my own stuff. but if there's one thing i noticed about all of my showers(the 4 or 5 that i had before) last time was that hardly anyone buys anything off a registry they just get you what they think is cute.
i know. i'm guilty of it myself b/c i'm too lazy to look up someones registry most of the time.
but the items i need are the expensive ones like a multi child baby monitor system(that's a whopping 150.00. really,who would buy that??)

anyway, my mother in law told me last night that they were looking at the last weekend in march for my shower. it would be in seguine. almost 2 hrs away from me. and no one i know would come (besides my mom and my sisters and maybe my nana) b/c like i said before, no one on my side of the family agrees with hosting a shower every time someone is pregnant. which is fine with me. and i don't keep the same company i did when i was working -i've lost touch with all of those girls pretty much - and even if i hadn't, no one would drive that far.
i guess i could ask for a compramise like -why don't we have it at my house - or something like that. (oh, and i guess they didn't ask me to pick a date b/c they either thought i wouldn't or they figured since i wasn't working i just happened to be available that day.....)
the last shower they threw me was a flop anyway b/c my MIL lived out in the middle of BFE and it was a 4 hr drive and on one came, aside from the few stragglers who always attend family functions.
atleast she's closer this time.
i just didn't have the heart to tell her i wasn't planning on a shower this time around.

i kind of wish i had.