so.....

TJ is coming home tonight! yay! i haven't seen him in 3 weeks! i was hoping he'd be on the road by now. it's a 6 hr drive. it's 2 45 in the pm. he still hasn't called to say he's on the road. i know they were training part of the day.......... guess i'll just keep waiting.

neighbor comes home tomorrow. so far things haven't felt so dutiful. i've been leaving her dogs out for long stretches to cut down on their need for potty breaks.
before she left -when all of this first started -i told her to find someone else or arrange some to come and scoop cat poo as i was pregnant and could not.
well, truth be told, i could. if i had to.(gloves and mask and all that)which i don't b/c she set someone up to help. or so i thought. i do it for mine on the rare occasion i put the box down. but it's more of a pick up and dump whole box arrangement. not the detailed clean out for fresh spots to go.
anyhoo, she asked the 9 yr old neighbor girl if she knew how and would she mind helping. all was set. she left me a home number and a cell to call when needed.
i called monday b/c the girl who helped last week (another someone else) didn't touch the boxes. left a message. got nothing.
so i called at dinner time last night.
left another message.
the mother called me back and said her daughter was out of town all week b/c school was out for the holiday but should be back by noon today. and she would leave her my name and # and "remind" her that she said she would help.
i'm sorry. when did parents start "reminding" their kids to do stuff and then just leave it up to them to do it? neighbor does this with her kid. she never makes sure he follows thru. hello! he's a little kid. they need some kind of direction. you can't just say and expect them to do, you have to make sure they do what they're supposed to be doing.
it's nearly 3 pm and no little girl has called to say "can you let me in so i can clean up after the cats?"
the mom did offer to come over last night and take care of it. i should have let her. but the arrangement was for the little girl to do it. AND the mom had just gotten home from work-at 7 at night- and i was getting little TJ in for his bath.
the mom told me if i didn't hear from the little girl to call again and they'd just come do it before they leave town tonight.
why should i? call a 3rd time when they knew this was the arrangement and it needs to be done?
the mother admitted she was busy enough that she would forget if the daughter didn't do it and i didn't call and "remind" them.
but i don't think i should have to. i know. no big deal. what's an extra phone call?
this was neighbors problem from the beginning b/c i told her get someone else or set up help. and she set up "bad" help.
so if no one calls to be let in she can do it herself when she gets home tomorrow.
she knew i couldn't do it.
and if her other help can't help me then the kitty's will just have to find a clean corner themselves.
there are 2 cats and 2 boxes anyway.
they'll live.
the poor things.
they're not eating either.
i haven't had to fill their food bowl once. maybe the stuff that's out is too stale now. i'll try fresh tomorrow.